Beating comparison

So, we can understand that comparison may be an innate behaviour, but lets use this for good and not for bad. What if we decided to use it as motivation to improve, rather than to tear ourselves down for not meeting the standard. Lets change our perspective on what comparison looks like. Here are some myths I want you to consider when looking at comparison:

 

 

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” —Theodore Roosevelt

 

  1. Comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others.

  2. Comparisons, by definition, require metrics. But only a fool believes every good thing can be counted (or measured).

  3. Comparisons rob us of precious time. We each get 86,400 seconds each day. And using even one to compare yourself or your accomplishments to another is one second too many.

  4. You are too unique to compare fairly. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else.

  5. You have nothing to gain, but much to lose. For example: your pride, your dignity, your drive, and your passion.

  6. There is no end to the possible number of comparisons. The habit can never be overcome by attaining success. There will also be something—or someone—else to focus on.

  7. Comparison puts focus on the wrong person. You can control one life—yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.

  8. Comparisons often result in resentment. Resentment towards others and towards ourselves.

  9. Comparisons deprive us of joy. They add no value, meaning, or fulfillment to our lives. They only distract from it.

Lets appreciate individual differences and practice gratitude.